Huwebes, Oktubre 17, 2013


Letting Go with Forgiveness The Most Powerful Medicine
By Evelyn T. Du

Forgiveness is a very tender subject. It brings up lots of memories, emotions and desire in most of us. I’m glad you’ve chosen to explore forgiveness as a healing tool in your life, for it is a sacred journey. Forgiveness is the most powerful medicine I’ve found to heal the human heart. 

Many of us go through really hard times. Through forgiveness, we learned that the grace of God offers a more powerful love than what human could give us. It’s a love that never leaves, never gives up, and always heals when we allow it into our hearts. We also learned that love was perfect as it was, and as it is. 

Contact with God is the only thing that kept us sane and whole enough to face our daily problems in life, despite how trials comes and its effect on us. It helped us to learn that we are a lot stronger than anything that shows up in our lives, even how our lives felt shock and pain.

You probably have a different, painful story that affected your life. Perhaps you have quite a few of them! This will guide you step-by-step, showing you a way to heal your painful memories by finding the spiritual treasure hidden within each one. 

The kind of forgiveness is not the traditional model. It teaches us how to go much further and deeper on our spiritual path. By sharing the version of ecstatic, radical forgiveness, it will help us grow and be more mature.

What is Forgiveness? 

Forgiveness truly is heart medicine. It involves the healing experience of Divine contact. The Divine has many names, including the Holy Spirit, the Divine Mother, Father God, Great Spirit, Nature, or the “peace that passeth all understanding.” The word “Divine,” please substitute any name that works for you. The important thing for us to remember is the uniting, creative force of Love. Only this Love is real, and only Love has the power to heal and reunite us with our true nature. 

We sometimes call our forgiveness journey a jump into the River of Love. We will learn that Life gave us our experiences to show us that NO MATTER WHAT, the River of Love will float us home to a deep sense of inner security and serenity. This experience of forgiveness teaches us to release our sadness, and find gratitude for the lessons we’ve learned. It gives us the joy and freedom of knowing we are never isolated or without a friend. The River of Love shows us that the edges to all things are friendly…if we relax into the safety we share with the Divine. 

In committing to make use of the River of Love on our path of freedom, we need to examine what this forgiveness is, and what it is not.

In the traditional view of forgiveness, a common element is that a crime occurred. If there was no crime, there’d be no need to forgive! So if we feel that forgiveness is what is next for us, we'll need to find the crimes in our life story. By crime, we mean any transgression that seemed to cause us pain, sadness, anger, fear, or other emotion that we did not want to feel at the time. It could have been as large as a rape or murder, or as small as a nasty look or icy silence.

I say “seemed to cause you pain” because it is never the events that cause us to suffer, but rather how we interpret the situation. It is possible for one person to feel great anguish over something that another person wouldn’t mind at all. Even dramatic acts of violence can have different effects on different people, depending upon what the people involved think about what happened.

We have a choice about how we interpret our surroundings and the intentions of others. We can choose fear or love. If we choose fear, which is how we were programmed at just about every level of society, then we will assume that an attack occurred, and a crime must have taken place. 

For example, crimes usually involve violence of some kind. This could be physical, emotional, verbal, sexual or energetic violence. Perhaps a situation occurred where someone crossed your personal boundary without permission, physically attacking you or giving you an emotional stab. Probably, your first instinct was to defend yourself, retaliate, or withdraw. Each of these instincts stems from a belief that the attack was real, and that you are an individual person with an individual body. This is how you live in the World of Humanity, also known as the world of 3D or the world of duality, where crimes take place every day. 

Once you were convinced that a crime occurred, the people involved automatically fit into pre-arranged roles. We have a group agreement for these roles, which spans all cultures and socio-economic levels around the globe. We call these roles Victims and Perpetrators. Sometimes there is another role, that of the Savior – a third person who swoops in to (temporarily) save the day. For our forgiveness practice, we’ll focus on the Victim and Perpetrator roles, because they take us directly into our emotions, and that is the place to go for deep healing. 

In traditional forgiveness, we keep these roles intact and try to heal. We say to ourselves, “I’ll just let bygones be bygones.” Or, “I’ll let the passage of time heal my aching heart. It doesn’t feel so bad anymore. I’ve forgiven him/her.” Or, “They had such a terrible childhood, they couldn’t help themselves. I feel pity for them. I have forgiven.”

Now you will learn to enlarge and change the definition of forgiveness. Complementing the teachings of A Course in Miracles (ACIM) and Radical Forgiveness, you will utilize a philosophy that ultimately throws out the victim and perpetrator roles altogether. You’ll ask yourself to expand your thinking and feeling to include all beings as equal, eternal and holy. 

You can then experience a sense of peace that is never possible when we identify ourselves or others as victims and perpetrators. This peace is only available to us when we relax into the World of Divine Truth, where the grace of God envelops us all. 

The catch here is that we can’t gloss over the knots of constriction and pain that we made in our emotional bodies, back when upsetting events in our lives occurred. Especially when we were children, we didn’t have the emotional maturity to separate ourselves from our parents, peers and teachers. We didn’t understand the impact of the pain they were carrying when it was projected upon us. We dutifully took on the legacy of their trauma in an elaborate human dance that has lasted for untold generations. And the thing is, we’ll keep on projecting this mess onto our children and our grandchildren unless we stop the momentum. This is the most important stand we can take in life. We can say, “This pain stops with me.” 

“To transform energies we must experience them totally, working through them and forgiving them, which means seeing the perfection in them.” — Colin Tipping, Radical Forgiveness: Making Room for the Miracle
Note: Forgiveness is the inner work that we do to increase our experience of freedom. It brings us consciously into the World of Divine Truth. In the World of Humanity, we also need accountability, responsibility for our actions, systems of justice, mediation, reconciliation, treatment programs, jails and prisons. This is the outer work of living together in an unenlightened society. These inner and outer levels are connected, yet distinct. 

Almost all of us have wounds that need to heal. We can’t skip over the work that is needed to release this pain out of our minds, hearts and bodies. This is the blessing of forgiveness and the vital excitement of jumping into the River of Love. It takes us from isolation, fear and pain all the way back home to God. We simply cannot heal without learning to float within it! 

When you do the inner work of forgiveness, remember that you are not trying to fix yourself, another person, or a situation. You are not looking for justice in order to champion injustice. You are not a savior or a victim or a perpetrator. Those are roles that you constructed. You are not bound by them, nor is anyone else. 

What a relief! 

You will learn to simply witness what you are carrying from the past, learn from it, and let it go. You will release the need to blame, shame or revenge upon anyone – including yourself. This release will open up passageways that were blocked, perhaps for your entire life up until now. This means that all of the love and wisdom of the Divine will be available for you…now that you have finished your business of building grievances. The doorways, your inner meridians, will be open. You will begin to live inside miracles themselves, and to come to at-one-ment with our Creator. Life just doesn’t get any better than that.
“No more fearful dreams will come, now that you rest in God.”

What are the benefits of forgiving someone? 

Researchers have recently become interested in studying the effects of forgiveness. Evidence is mounting that holding on to grudges and bitterness results in long-term health problems. Forgiveness, on the other hand, offers numerous benefits, including: 

Forgiveness is the most powerful medicine: * Lower blood pressure * Stress reduction * Less hostility * Better anger management skills * Lower heart rate * Lower risk of alcohol or substance abuse * Fewer depression symptoms * Fewer anxiety symptoms * Reduction in chronic pain * More friendships * Healthier relationships * Greater religious or spiritual well-being * Improved psychological well-being
Keep in mind that current research studies people engaging in a traditional forgiveness model. You'll also be receiving these health benefits, but in a potentially much deeper way because of the radical nature of its philosophy. How deep you go depends on you. 

Contemplate these questions to begin your forgiveness process: 

How do you currently view forgiveness? What value can you see in learning to forgive? What do you want from forgiveness? What will you give to your process? Are you waiting to be forgiven? from whom? What emotions are rising up in you as you meditate on these questions?

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